You Can Stop Depression now

What causes us to suffer from depression? As far as depression is defined as a mental condition which depressed in a long time (continuous stress) and the resulting loss of life expectancy, meaning life, achievement motivation, and self-confidence (losing the mood and confidence), of course causes a lot. His name is also the living. Reality of life is sometimes more cruel than the cruelty which could we imagine.

Although we want to be able to overcome depression, but often we Instead, practice the things that aggravate depression. Between Another could be described as follows:

1. Just looking for tips, advice or telling technique to overcome
depression. Tip of the book, tips and techniques from other people that are our
needs but its position here is not as decisive, but
as a helper (bantuan. We need all of that but should not be
rely on them. That is, tips and suggestions that will be useful
when we are in a state is trying to overcome depression and
not useful if we sit down and be quiet.

2. Do not believe, reject or skeptical of advice, opinion or
help others. This is the equivalent of an extreme form of the
first. Shut down, cover up, or harass any person
away from people often will only make us more 'depressed'
with our situation.

3. Just blame the situation or person. Maybe that makes us
It is a world depression is a telalu cruel or others. But
would even be dangerous if we remember and what we do is
only condemned the world and condemning others. There should be an initiative of
in us to treat ourselves.

4. Less creative in finding ways or too "obedient" to the
routine ordinary. This also can make depression more
depth. There are suggestions that we should divide the activities into three: a)
positive activity required, b) activities for fun or
pleasurable, and c) activities to sow goodness in people
Another way to help or connect relationship.

5. Allow the negative self-definition, for example: I have
do not have anything else, I'm sick of seeing myself, my life was
destroyed and can not be repaired again, and so on. It is
definitions or conclusions or labels of ourselves that we make
alone. If this continues to complicate recovery efforts.

6. Rejecting reality in ways that harm. Reality is that
rejected in order to override the origin refuses (denial), this will
exacerbate an argument that makes it even more gripping depression.
But if we accept the surrender and defeat (dissolved and carried away), this
also did not heal. Which is expected to receive for
improve. As written by Dr. Felice Leonardo Buscaglia, "
Lasting trauma on the suffering that is not followed by
improvement. "

7. Adopts irrational perfectionist. From experience
you manage a number of experts in depression, it is said that inhibit
recovery efforts is when someone thinks that he should be free
from depression immediately and directly, do not worry.
Overcoming depression need ongoing process, and if we reject
process rather than sooner, but even longer.

Seven of the above can be used to explain the reality in which
there are people worse pace, the worse relationship and
worse way in dealing with life during the depression. You may
have friends, family or neighbors who have even more closed, more
not persuasive, the less wise, more narrow, more closed
and a number of "getting" the other negative.

But there is also a group of people who began to show evidence
self-improvement, repair relationships and improve the way in the face
reality. The more obvious steps taken, the more open and wise,
increasingly able to select people, more friendly, more pious life, and
onwards. Wherever possible we should strive to be human
the second group.

Overcoming Depression
In general, the agenda of overcoming depression can we make based
The following points are:

1. Building a positive self-image
Self-image comes from how we conclude yourself or
opinions about themselves. Produced positive positive image.
To build this positive needed three things:

- You need menciptkan definition, opinion or conclusion that positive

- You need to fight the emergence of opinion, the definition or negative conclusions
with how to stop, change or cancel

- You need to create a factual reasons, evidence for
supports the conclusion that you create a positive

A little about the factual reasons for that, I want to give examples of such
You only conclude that your life is still meaningful (for
ourselves and for others). This conclusion is more positive
instead you have the opposite conclusion. But if you
do feel limited or concluded (without accompaniment by
actions and the results or proof stages), over time the conclusion
You will be lost by the fact that there are about yourself. Never
think that the improvement could be done in a way not
do something. Forget it.

2. Running agenda realistic continuous improvement
Our mistake when depressed is: we just feel
how depression but not thinking about anything that is
can we do to improve themselves in the future. We lost
into a bad past and forgotten to the imagination of the future
better. In fact, it's past can not be changed.
In fact, the future is still "open" for us. This order does not occur,
You may choose improvement agenda below:

- You plan the program or schedule of what you need to
do and what you need to avoid so that your life becomes more
good tomorrow based on your circumstances.

- You declare targets really want to achieve as
evidence of improvement in yourself, such as getting a job,
obtain a better person, get a better place,
and so on.

- You formulate short-term goals or long you want to
make happen, such as finishing college, increasing mastery
areas, increase knowledge or skills, etc.

Three of the above needs to be done with the records must be realistic: can
performed by starting today, by using resources already
there, and from the location where you live currently. Avoid making
program or the target of "imagining" or just fantasizing, or too
high that can not be done and can not be achieved.

3.Menggunakan dissatisfaction
When depressed, we certainly are not satisfied with our lives. This can be positive
and can be negative, depending on how we are using. How
to be positive? One way is by using
dissatisfaction that as encouragement / motivation to do something unntuk
(run the program, reaching the target or goal). You can use the
dissatisfaction on the past and today as a booster for
improve or change the next day. If the layoffs have made your
depression, make it as motivation to expand the network,
improving skills, building a more positive character, and
onwards. This is far more positive than we just felt
depression, self-pity and blaming others.

4. Improve / expand relationship
Areas that need improvement relationship is: a) the relationship with self
self: self control, meditation, self dialogue, etc., b) the relationship with
others and c) a relationship with God (increase of faith). Improve
relationship with yourself will make us quickly control or
pulled away from a state that does not benefit us. If we
aware that we are depressed and realized that we must immediately
take action, this course will be different problems.

Improve relationships with men will help our business
done in overcoming depression. We still have to remember that human
It can be classified into two: a) there is a source of human
depression for us, and b) there are people who help in solving the
depression. What we need (as much) is a group of human
second. Do not get us away from all humans, trauma to all
humans, or do not believe in all humans.

How to improve the relationship with God? There are many ways to
improve, among others:
a) increase the faith,
b) run the religion we choose (formal and non-formal)
until we really feel and believe there is a kind of "togetherness".
Togetherness togetherness here is not a "hallucination" (not based
and no effect), but the togetherness that encourages us to
doing positive things and avoiding negative things. Togetherness as
This will strengthen and enlighten.

5. Changing understood "perfection" to "excellence"
With simple language can be explained that perfection is
demand perfection (from others, from ourselves and from the world
this). Meanwhile, the perfection of excellence is to seek a
gradual, continuous improvement. Perfection is closer to the belief
is not rational. This belief is more susceptible to depression
when we want to overcome depression, for example, we do not want
failed again (the possibility of failure is always there), our anti-tolerance
the weaknesses of others (everyone has a weakness), and so on.